Together Forever

Posted on October 14, 2013 by Rathina Sankari

Dear Hubby,

It has been more than a decade since we have been married. Ours being an inter-caste and interstate was more of a rushed and simple affair. There were differences between the two families that took its time to resolve. Our marriage was eventful with twists and turns and also surprises some not very pleasant.

The initial years were rocky be it emotionally or financially. On our first date you didn’t have money to foot the bill. I still remember those days when money seemed to flow in and immediately disappear. We never did go anywhere for our honeymoon simply because we couldn’t afford it. Our days of calculations and immature steps did strain and take a toll on our relationship. We did have our fights, differences and quarrels but I must say over the years both of us have turned into responsible adults who have seen the highs and lows of life and now have mellowed.

It did bring a sense of pride when we moved from our rented house to our own house albeit bare. I had my apprehensions when I couldn’t bring my friends home as I didn’t have furniture to seat them. Our first bike that we still can’t part with has been loyal to us till date. Every object in the house has been bought after multiple computations and thinking. I am happy and a proud mother of two lovely kids.

Today when I look at my cousins getting married with an elaborate affair it gets me thinking. I see that they have a very happy, peaceful wedding and more of a pleasant time to remember. The sangeet, mehendi, engagement, pheras, music, laughter and the rituals are so very joyous and fun. These are times to remember and lived that can never be forgotten.

The preparation starts months before the event, the bride doing her shopping for costume, jewelry, footwear, accessories etc. She visiting the salon and preparing herself for the D-Day so that she looks her best. Friends and cousins casually tease her, the bride looking forward to the big event.

Sometimes I feel I have missed all the fun and excitement that a bride goes through in a marriage. The bride decked in her heavy silk sari with the mang tika in the traditional south Indian way, the groom tying the three knots accompanied by the nadaswaram and drums is an affair to be remembered lifelong.

Mangalyam tantunanena mama jIvana hethunA | align=”center”

Kanthe: badhnami subhage! twam jeeva sarada: satam ||

“This is a sacred thread. This is essential for my long life. I tie this around your neck O maiden having many auspicious attributes. May you live happily for a hundred years (with me).”

Hubby dear, I would want to live these moments. Well you see down the line when you would turn sixty our Hindu custom has this ritual called Shasti Poorthi. Celebrating sixty years of your living! Couples wed again following the Hindu rituals. The sixtieth year in everyone’s life is a significant milestone. A memorable turning point, a touching reminder of the rich, mellowed life that would unfold in the years to come.

I would want to marry again in the traditional Hindu style. I would want to experience everything that a bride would go through. It might sound weird for that matter even funny. We would be in our old age with snow white hair, frail with joint problems and other health issues. Grandchildren prancing around us, we already have lived the good ripe days of our life. But this thought somehow does remain and keeps popping in my head every now and then.

Source – Huffington Post

I know I am not the best partner; I have my days of mood swings. I am not an easy person to deal with and kept happy. It might sound silly but I would want ask you –

Do you think you can marry me again;

Bound together in platinum?

For years that we have lived;

And the years to be thrived

Life comes full circle,

As the days trickle

Hand in hand forever;

Never to fade ever,

Love so pure and true;

Like the early morning dew

You for me and me for you,

Love bands in fingers until I bid adieu