65 % Feminist
Well you guys might wonder what a weird title, but thats what was the result of the test that I gave at BLOGTHINGS
On Friday over lunch myself and my friend had a discussion with one of our male colleagues regarding women being career minded. Now one of my colleagues had recently put down her papers as she will soon be getting married and will fly to USA with her hubby as he will be on site for more than a year. Now my male colleague was of the opinion why should she have left the job, she could have continued in our company after coming back to India etc…. Now leave apart the technical aspect of this being possible or not (i.e. whether the company will take her after a year) but I said I don’t think she is a career minded girl. As per him there is no such concept of career, its all about money and love for your work.
Myself and my friend said that its not necessary that a female would leave her job on the pretext of marriage, but it could be any of these reasons – delivery, dear hubby not wanting a modern wife, in laws not wanting a working daughter-in-law etc. He wouldn’t agree to these reasons. Of course this is the reality of LIFE. We talk of Women getting liberated, out of domestic violence, working shoulder to shoulder with other men etc….. But I have known females who have left their job to take care of their kid post delivery as in laws have refused to take care of the little one in spite of theirs being a joint family, also females leaving their job post marriage as in laws/husband don’t want a working female in their family.
My friend voiced her opinion that a women shouldn’t leave her job post marriage as men take her for granted and she isn’t given the respect, importance that she deserves as a wife or daughter-in-law. Well of course she is a part and parcel of your life and you need to give that respect to your wife. I have known a family where the husband had finalized a house to be bought and showed it to his son-in-law, son but he never felt the need to show it to his wife after 30 years of marriage. Is this the respect that she deserves for standing by you in the thick and thin of life?
I like to go to work, because of my love for it and also I find it a means of keeping myself out of unwanted thoughts and come on men my parents haven’t educated me to sit at home and just scrub the floor, you could say its escapism. 🙂 It gives me a sense of security that tomorrow if the need arises I can take care of myself and my kid.
Well I guess thats the result of my opinions, views – 65% FEMINIST 🙂 But do you think its possible to lead a married life being a 100% feminist, I don’t think so in today’s world – INDIAN SOCIETY IS STILL CONSERVATIVE